Friends Without ANY Benefits

The instant you make your feelings clear to a woman, get any immediate response that's less than a yes, and you decide to try to win her over by continuing to spend time with her, she begins USING you. She may not intend to, (or maybe she does?) but that`s exactly what she`s doing. You have just been typecast in the role of "Boyfriend Lite". You get to listen to all her problems like a real boyfriend, except you don't get to hit it....ever. Every time you do this, you're giving her free reign to get with whomever she wants at your expense. How?

Because you fulfill the emotional role of a boyfriend. She will then go out and proceed to have sex with any other guy that turns her on in some way. But wait! It gets worse! After she`s done doing whatever with whomever, take a wild guess as to who she`s going to come share her stories with first? No, not her girlfriends... That's right! You!

Let that be a lesson to you. If you`re not her boyfriend when you should be or at least tapping that when you want to be -- There isn't even one legitimate reason to continue having anything to do with her. She already knows what you want anyway. All females know. If she needs a psychiatrist to talk to about her problems, or simply needs a "male's opinion" on how to deal with men who aren't you by the way, simply tell her it'll cost her 75 dollars an hour with a 250 dollar deposit and that should pretty much take care of that.

Many women will want to try to argue this point and say things like "Well, I have lots of guy friends." This statement is very stupid, to be sure. There are exactly 3 cases where a guy and a girl can be friends:

The guy is gay

The guy does not find you attractive.

The guy has a woman in mind that looks waaaay better than you. Why would he trade down for you?

What you should do is state your intentions upfront, no bullshit. If she's not with it, move on. Don't be stupid.

*Editor's Sidenote: No woman has a gaggle of male friends that cannot wait to hear her beautiful ramblings without getting to get some. Lemme be the first to tell you sweetheart, these guys want to bang you, do you understand?! If friendship was all they wanted, they'd go hang with their boys and play PS2 or something. They don't want female friends, so if you're not tryin' to let them hit, stop wasting their time. For the fellas, let me tell you this: "for a friend she sees, a friend you'll always be".

Every time she meets and gets with a random guy instead of you, she keeps saying to you that "You`re not good enough for me to date or have sex with, but this guy I met at the club/party/mall/work and knew for only about half an hour is. And if you call her on her bullshit she`ll probably give you a halfassed excuse that insults your intelligence. So then you`re back to jerking yourself to sleep night after night while fantasizing about her. And she`s out scratchin her nails into some other guy's back.

So ask yourself this:

"Would I do the things I do with/for her if she was a dude?"

If you said "No", then the two of you are not friends. You are just her man-bitch, plain and simple.

*NOTE -- friendships require that there be mutual interests and NO SEXUAL interest on either party's part. If there's even the slightest tinge of this, then you are NOT friends!

Remember this: "For a friend she sees, a friend you shall always be..."

Signs of DISINTEREST and General Indifference to you:

- Doesn't give you her number

- Impossible to set up a date

- Flaky and unreliable

- Is just plain rude and blows you off

- Makes no effort to continue a conversation and you start to notice lots of long pauses which she makes no effort to fill

She says she want to see you but claims that she is always busy. Women who are interested in you, if they have to break a date for some reason will always try to reschedule for a later day. to put it simply: "if she really wants you, nothing and nobody will stop her from trying to get to you".

Rarely will a female show negative signs to a guy she's really into.

And one More Thing:

You mean nothing to her until you have sex

Women will make all sorts of promises about what they will do with (and to) you when you two get together, but until you actually get in or on her bed and you have just finished, you don't even exist to her.