What I Have Found Out About Women

Despite what any female might tell you, women want a man who is indeed a man, not some pussy-whipped, pussified lap dog that's so in tuned to her wants and needs, that they forget who they are as men. If that were the case, the process would be easier entirely if they just dated other women instead.

So remember:

Be a damn man, not a crossdresser; not cool!

The "Friends Zone"

I read an interesting article on the website askmen that talks about this dreaded place for men women don't want to have as their man and/or have sex with called the "Friends Zone". It's a terrible place where men never get to be with the woman their attracted to while a female talks his head off about some guy she got with or whats to get with. Picture this:

You have a female friend that you like in a way that's more than just friends. After contemplating what to do about it, you go for it and ask her out....only to get floored when she tells you something along the lines of:

"I'm not ready for a relationship"
or

"I don't want to lose what we have"

You shuffle dejectedly away, hoping nobody else witnessed what just transpired. A few days later, the "friend" calls you up excitedly in the middle of the night (after you finished jerking off to her in your mind), telling you that she just met this great, exciting guy at the club tonight, and what luck! She met him 5 mins. after walking in! Great for her, HORRIBLE for you.

Great. So NOW what do you do? What I'd do is just say "That's great, but I'm busy, so I'll talk to ya later, ok?". Why? Because she basically said she doesn't like you, and that all you are (and ever will be) to her is a friend, so why stick around? Give her what she wanted to begin with: your NON-presence!

What you first need to realize is that women see men as falling into 1 of 3 categories:

1- Guys they want to immediately have sex with

2- Guys they might be interested in having sex with

3- Guys who will forever be typecast into the "friends" role. (Translation: no sex--EVER--no matter what you do or how hard you try.)

The reason you get trapped in the "Friends Zone" is because:

She’s not attracted to you

Oh, sure, she finds you funny, fun to be with -- but she's just plain not feelin' you. Short of a new hairstyle and wardrobe (or maybe reincarnation?), there’s not a lot you can do about this, so don’t even kid yourself. Sometimes that’s just the way it is. If she‘s just not into you, you have a choice to make: Either stay as her friend or blow her off for better oppurtunity elsewhere.

You don’t have the goods

When it comes to choosing men for sex, the number one priority for most women is money. If you don’t have it (or enough of it), odds are you’ll be immediately dumped into the Friend Zone.

You’re a doormat

She has downgraded you to friend status because you’re way too nice, too accommodating and too ass-kissing. She knows she can have you just by snapping her fingers. You follow her around like a moon-eyed puppy dog. You try to impress her. You think you can buy her attention with flowers, gifts and expensive meals. You are a wuss and she can’t wait to castrate you and make you her best girlfriend who’ll look after her pets while she goes running off for the weekend with a tattooed biker.

She’s a psycho

She’s been abused or brutalized by the Bad Boys she’s voluntarily chosen to date (and she blames her bad choices on the men themselves, of course), so now she can’t even begin to establish a normal relationship with a normal guy. These women are famous for aggressively flirting with a man, then reacting with horror when he comes on to her (“I thought we were friends”). The only male a psycho can psychologically deal with is a nonsexual “friend.”

Here's what I'd suggest you do to avoid it

Make yourself hard to pin down (Like I mentioned above)

Stop acting like her puppet and be ready to be near here every time she calls. Wait a day or two or more to return one of her phone calls. Be a challenge, not a doormat.

Start (or continue if you already were; don't stop) dating other women

In other words, make her jealous. If she has any sexual interest in you at all, this will drive her crazy.

Flip it and ask HER for advice on the women you date!

Openly talk about other women and how hot they are. Ask her for advice about what women want in a man and how you can get close to these women.

Tell her you want to be “just friends”

She isn’t stupid -- she’s known all along that you want to hit that, so if you reject her sexually, she won’t be able to stand it.

If she responds romantically, be challenging

Keep her off balance. Be a challenge. Be unpredictable. Keep her guessing. Never let her think that she’s got you by your nuts. There’s a huge difference between wanting her and needing her -- she’ll react a lot differently around you if she thinks you could leave her at any time for another pretty face.

And there ya have it, guys! Any questons???

What I Have Learned Thus Far

What I've learned about women so far:

The female mind is a tangled up mish-mash of emotions and insane expectations. What I keep getting, over and over again from women, that the guy must, as a requirement, have varying degrees of a dangerous side. Any man that dares complain about this system is pretty much written off as a "woman-hater" (I should know, it happens to me all time). Anyway, after several unsuccessful relationships, they complain that there aren't any more good men. Nevermind that they haven't dated every man in the world, (some are closer to reaching this than others), Then they hit their 30's and they start to ease up on their unreal expectations, and as their looks start to fade, they start trying to date nice guys that, in their youth, the woman rejected on the basis that he didn't meet her neds at the time, not because she genuinely wants him, but because she's now in a rush to get married, and otherwise avoid becoming an old maid. But she can't see that she did this to herself, so instead, she blames her lack of a good man on anybody and anything (almost always on men) but herself.

My point is:

Women are VERY MUCH responsible for the choices they make in regards to choosing a man to be with, so when they get burned, and later in life, are desperate and in a hurry to find somebody to save them from a lifetime of lonliness, they have nobody to blame but themselves for it, so stop whining about whose fault it is (yours) and take responsibility for what you caused. Be honest with us men and with yourself about what you really want. You could solve most of your relationship problems if you would just take a look in the mirror and see that it's your insane desires that are holding you back and do something about it. You made it a point to choose nothing but hot boy thugs, pimps, and players, so how is it my fault you can't find a decent man now?

My Closing Statement:

Thugs, Bad Boys, and Players are often times just guys that got stepped on by women one too many times. They got tired of being a woman's puppet, started worrying about what they want, developed a backbone and stopped giving a shit about what women want, think or need. They're also tired of taking female advice only to have it fail miserably for them, so they decided to do whatever the hell they wanted to with little or no regard to what any female says. They basically became men, no longer "female-friendly".

Women will write off 15-20 nice guys to get to that one thug/bad boy/player. Ninety percent of the women always want 10% of the men. They may also become the "baby mamas" of these men several times over once the guy finds out he's gotten into her head, and then after being emotionally destroyed by this man she will have the absolute nerve to say good men no longer exist. She wonders why no good man will come along and try to help her clean up the car wreck she made of her own life. The reason you can't find a good man is because YOU DON'T WANT ONE AND YOU'RE NOT LOOKING FOR ONE! You probably don't even know what a good man is. Your secret is out now anyway, so you might as well admit it for the world to hear.

Bad Advice

Do not ever take dating advice from a woman, and I mean NEVER

First things first. As a rule, women give the absolute WORST relationship advice! You'd think that going to the source itself would be the answer, right? Wrong. Women are usually the last ones to know what they want in a man. They almost always contradict any advice they give you. Said advice usually starts off as something to the effect of "be yourself" or "tell her how you feel" or one of my personal favorites "don't be a guy that's pressed to hit it". This kind of advice will get you more girl-friends, but not anywhere close to the draws, so if you're not with the more girl-friends thing, this advice is ultimately futile. Women who say these ridiculous things always date the guys that are polar opposite of the advice they gave you and would never actually tell you that the key to being popular with women is to treat them like garbage. If they ever did, they'd be admitting that they view nice guys as boring, uninteresting, and can't sex them like they like it. In short, playing Mr. Nice Guy will get you nowhere. They say all these things while at the same time, they will continue to date the very guys they tell you be unlike. Then they can complain about it endlessly and still claim to be a victim. Can anyone say "liar" or "hypocrite"? Be particularly aware of ANY advice you get from any ex-girlfriend, as their kind of "help" isn't designed to help you, rather, it's designed to thwart any efforts you make to replace them. So what does one do? Be you, man! Make NO APOLOGIES for being the man you're meant to be. Be that man of action! Be so unapologetically male, and the women will take notice and you know what comes next.......

*NOTE: The general rule of thumb is that you as a man need to pay more attention to what she does and less to what she says, because the body doesn't lie, but mouths do. Then and only then will you know for sure what women really want. Got me?

Friendship? Nahhhh.....

Just so you know, men and women CANNOT be friends....EVER! here's why I say this:

Friendship requires that there be mutual interests. There is usually some sexual interest on one or both party's parts. To put it simply: "if you're not liking her, she's liking you". You can't be friends because your view of her will be permanently colored by the fact that you have feelings for her, so when she bring s over her guy-friend, you'll be smiling on the outside, but hurting and about to crumble on the inside. This isn't healthy at all.

She's NOT one of the homies, you're not one of her girls. She isn't a guy, and therefore isn't likely to like doing any things that guys typically do. It's highly unlikely that she will like to play the newest PS3 games, asking questions like "how do you beat this guy?"

Basically, if you want her, let her know, and if she's not with it, drop her. I don't mean you should shut her out completely, because she'll know she got to you. Speak but keep it movin'. Appear as though you don't have time to speak to her; it'll drive her nuts!!

Never Ever Ever.....

Never, ever try to be friends with a female you're sexually attracted to because female friends = mucho time with

By now, you've realized that the average a woman normally has several dudes to satisfy her every need, physical and mental right? Guys that take her out, buy her things, listens to all her mindless drivel about another guy she was either with or wants to be with, and in general treats her like a queen, and she still never really considers dating or sleeping with him. After which, she gives him a kick in the nuts, the kiss of death and says to them (or more specifically YOU) "You're such a nice guy" or "Why can't I meet a wonderful, sweet, caring man like you?" You're a guy like you, aren't you? So she should be tryin' to get with you, right? True, but she won't. Why?

She's not attracted to you. If she were, she would have jumped at the chance the instant she saw you, and wouldn't have risked losing you to another female. Women know if they want to be with or have sex with you from the instant they lay eyes on you, so if she hasn't tried something on you or given you some obvious sign by now, she's probably not ever going to.

She's using you. You are one of the many different guys she has in her stable of men. Each one of these men has the job of meeting one of her specific needs. Your job is to fulfill the emotional role that a boyfriend should. You, in effect, have been reduced to the status of "Boyfriend Lite". That's right! All the great listening capabilities that a boyfriend should have, but without you ever getting any! She's using you, and will continue to do so until you wake up and cut her loose.

Friends Without ANY Benefits

The instant you make your feelings clear to a woman, get any immediate response that's less than a yes, and you decide to try to win her over by continuing to spend time with her, she begins USING you. She may not intend to, (or maybe she does?) but that`s exactly what she`s doing. You have just been typecast in the role of "Boyfriend Lite". You get to listen to all her problems like a real boyfriend, except you don't get to hit it....ever. Every time you do this, you're giving her free reign to get with whomever she wants at your expense. How?

Because you fulfill the emotional role of a boyfriend. She will then go out and proceed to have sex with any other guy that turns her on in some way. But wait! It gets worse! After she`s done doing whatever with whomever, take a wild guess as to who she`s going to come share her stories with first? No, not her girlfriends... That's right! You!

Let that be a lesson to you. If you`re not her boyfriend when you should be or at least tapping that when you want to be -- There isn't even one legitimate reason to continue having anything to do with her. She already knows what you want anyway. All females know. If she needs a psychiatrist to talk to about her problems, or simply needs a "male's opinion" on how to deal with men who aren't you by the way, simply tell her it'll cost her 75 dollars an hour with a 250 dollar deposit and that should pretty much take care of that.

Many women will want to try to argue this point and say things like "Well, I have lots of guy friends." This statement is very stupid, to be sure. There are exactly 3 cases where a guy and a girl can be friends:

The guy is gay

The guy does not find you attractive.

The guy has a woman in mind that looks waaaay better than you. Why would he trade down for you?

What you should do is state your intentions upfront, no bullshit. If she's not with it, move on. Don't be stupid.

*Editor's Sidenote: No woman has a gaggle of male friends that cannot wait to hear her beautiful ramblings without getting to get some. Lemme be the first to tell you sweetheart, these guys want to bang you, do you understand?! If friendship was all they wanted, they'd go hang with their boys and play PS2 or something. They don't want female friends, so if you're not tryin' to let them hit, stop wasting their time. For the fellas, let me tell you this: "for a friend she sees, a friend you'll always be".

Every time she meets and gets with a random guy instead of you, she keeps saying to you that "You`re not good enough for me to date or have sex with, but this guy I met at the club/party/mall/work and knew for only about half an hour is. And if you call her on her bullshit she`ll probably give you a halfassed excuse that insults your intelligence. So then you`re back to jerking yourself to sleep night after night while fantasizing about her. And she`s out scratchin her nails into some other guy's back.

So ask yourself this:

"Would I do the things I do with/for her if she was a dude?"

If you said "No", then the two of you are not friends. You are just her man-bitch, plain and simple.

*NOTE -- friendships require that there be mutual interests and NO SEXUAL interest on either party's part. If there's even the slightest tinge of this, then you are NOT friends!

Remember this: "For a friend she sees, a friend you shall always be..."

Signs of DISINTEREST and General Indifference to you:

- Doesn't give you her number

- Impossible to set up a date

- Flaky and unreliable

- Is just plain rude and blows you off

- Makes no effort to continue a conversation and you start to notice lots of long pauses which she makes no effort to fill

She says she want to see you but claims that she is always busy. Women who are interested in you, if they have to break a date for some reason will always try to reschedule for a later day. to put it simply: "if she really wants you, nothing and nobody will stop her from trying to get to you".

Rarely will a female show negative signs to a guy she's really into.

And one More Thing:

You mean nothing to her until you have sex

Women will make all sorts of promises about what they will do with (and to) you when you two get together, but until you actually get in or on her bed and you have just finished, you don't even exist to her.

Inaugural Posting - Thanks For Coming By

It would seem that my original website's domain name was in dispute and seeing as I was threatened with lawsuits over the use of the word "womanese", I opted to cancel the site, freeing the domain name and instead went with a blog. I think this works better to serve my purpose anyway. Before I go on, any women that may at some point or another be in the audience, don't be offended. This is just me leveling the playing field. All day guys get dissed and dogged out by women and we're not allowed to defend ourselves without being called gay or whatever, so sit there and allow one guy unafraid to stand up for our side to tell you a little bit about yourselves. You are not without fault either.

Now that that's out of the way, on with the show.....